Dear Wounded Heart,
Sometimes we lie to ourselves and others. I know it seems harsh, but it is the truth. Our past lives may have put us in a self-protective mode. This mode causes us to imagine a better life and lie about our current conditions. I understand. I am not judging, because I lived an existence survived by fantasy and lies. The truth was too painful to share.
Many people can identify with childhood fantasy but may not understand the depth of a wounded heart’s lies. We told protective agencies lies about living conditions. There were lies told to friends and teachers about scars on our bodies. And we pretended that our home was a safe place, knowing it was not. But I get it. We can embrace fantasy and tell the lies of our youth well into our adult life.
It was easy to pull off as a child, but adult lies are offensive. And offended adults will challenge you with the truth. I understand this as well. But there is a solution to this issue. So, today is a new day. We will discard the fantasy, stop the lies, and look at our lives through the lens of truth. We will strive to live our truth daily. No, you don’t have to tell people about your business, explain your past, or answer questions about anything you don’t feel safe to disclose. You can set healthy boundaries and be truthful (which includes the statement “I don’t want to share this information right now”.)
Lies cause distrust and are horrible foundations for relationships. If we can salvage the relationships already proven, let’s do so. But if we can’t, we must move on. By releasing our fantasies, embracing our truth, and honestly expressing our desires to share or not share. This is difficult because we are rewiring our entire existence. But we deserve this, and we can do this.
Love always,
Healing
