People who deal with rejection often play the position assigned to them in the lives of others. And without question, we allow them to shift our position around. Although we don’t question them, we should question ourselves. Doesn’t the shift in position correlate with a change in value? Did we shift their position in our lives as well? And if we didn’t, why not? Let’s explore.
Allowing people to increase or decrease our value without thinking is not good. On the upside, as we are being valued more, we too need to increase their value as well. Striving to at least match energy promotes healthy relationships. But on the downside, when we are being devalued, we need to recognize it. I wouldn’t dare say to devalue a person, but add some distance in the relationship. The distance prevents us from being abused.
The remedy for rejection is to value ourselves. So, as we play our positions in others’ lives, we need to evaluate their positions in ours as well. It’s not being petty; it’s keeping the relationship healthy for you. But please grasp that we can value ourselves without devaluing others to do it. It’s a sign of healing.
Sincerely,
Healing
