Ladies, have you ever looked at your date and wondered how you ended up with this person? Do you see a pattern of guys with the same behavior but a new face? It’s good to see this pattern, especially if you don’t want to keep repeating the cycle.
Are we in this cycle because of how we conducted ourselves during the introduction? Have we welcomed and accepted the attention of men that we have no intent to entertain? Were we boisterous about not needing a man, but allowed them to take us out to avoid loneliness? Perhaps we were snobbish, which is a turnoff to a hardworking man, but bait for the chase to a user.
Experience has taught me that men are smarter than we think. And read all our insecurities, lack of boundaries, and character flaws quickly. A healed man runs for an unhealed woman and a predator prey. So, it’s good to see the bad dating practices in our lives, and it’s great to make changes for the better. But where do we start?
We date as healed women. Which means we need to put some work into becoming the women that attracts the men we desire. The process is unique for each of us. Daddy issues, body shaming, unlearned dating techniques, or lack of respect for us require different tactics. Therefore, for a season, we may need to learn and love ourselves.
We can do it! We are worth it! And how wonderful it will be when the healed women in us get introduced to the healed men we desire.
Sincerely,
Healing
